Captivating Value

Monday, 13 August 2007 00:00

This entire book is filled with words that pierce my soul. I am understanding who I am and who I was always meant to be in the pages of this book. I am understanding the role that God intended for me to play and the role that the earth has squeezed me into. In talking about how our parents mold us, it says, "

"Women learn from mothers what it means to be a woman, and from their fathers the value that woman has - the value they have as a woman." Captivating, John & Stasi Eldredge, page 61-61.

It's my mom's job to teach me how to be a woman. It was her job to put femininity into my lifestyle. But it was my father's job to give me my value. Did he do that? Yes, but not in a biblical sense. My father taught me (as did my mother, albeit not her job for purposes of this blog) that I was a smart, strong, brave American woman. Anything I wanted could be mine if I worked hard enough and wanted it bad enough. I succeeded in everything I did. Every employer considers me a wonderful employee. I was taught that I can do anything, just challenge me. Did that give me value, yes, in my mind it did. But it was not the only value I needed.

Did I ever think I was beautiful? No, not really.

Did I ever think I was captivating? Certainly not.

"But as for our Question - that is primarily answered by our fathers."

If our fathers don't answer our Question, we will go searching for the answer until we think we've found it. So, instead, I did what so many other girls do at my age - I turned to boys. If I couldn't get my dad to answer my Questions (Remember, the Question for girls is, Am I lovely? For boys is Do I have what it takes?) I would get boys to answer it.

You know how it goes.

"How a father relates to his daughter has an enormous effect on her soul - for good or evil."

Fathers who are not godly men have no idea of the damage they are inflicting on their children by not answering their Questions. It forever defines then, forever scars them if the Question goes unanswered. Fathers have an enormous responsibility to define their children as their mother molds and nurtures them. This is one of the greatest gifts parents have, yet so often remains unused.

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